"Jessica isn't really that interested in golf, but she really wants to get better at it. It will give her more time to spend with Justin, since he plays 18 holes a couple of times a week."
A wise decision, I would say. And the same would be true if Jessica was the passionate, 6 handicap, tournament sponsoring, Callaway representing, course owning, golf fanatic and Justin was... not really that interested. It goes both ways.
We all know about Justin Timberlake's golf obsession. In 2008 alone, the world famous superstar did in fact plan the renovation of the golf course he purchased, sponsor a major tournament, sign a deal with Callaway and appear on the cover of golf digest. Other than Tiger Woods I can't think of anyone who can boast a more substantial list of golf accomplishments in one year. The guy clearly loves golf.
Justin's girlfriend, actress Jessica Biel, was recently spotted at the Riviera Country Club diligently working with a pro. She's been seen in the past doing the same at Brentwood Country Club.
I can only guess that all this time spent on gorgeous golf courses, in adorable golf outfits might ultimately turn Jessica into a golf fanatic in her own right, and that's where the whole learning golf to please your boyfriend (or girlfriend, or huband or wife) begins to bear fruit. The more people who play... and love... this game, the better. Especially in this dubious economic environment.
So if your significant other is not really interested. It's time to put a little pressure on.
The things women do for men... I wonder if the guys would learn how to do laundry in order to spend more time with us??? ;)
ReplyDeleteI'm a guy and I've been and am still doing my own laundry since before I met my wife over 14 years ago.
ReplyDeleteMy wife plays a little, but she maybe only gets out to play 3-5 times a summer. I keep hoping she'll get more interested in the game so that we could do things like a golf vacation together.
Her interest hasn't grown beyond the level of "mild", and I'm not the type to force it upon her either. I figure I'll take and enjoy the few times a year that she does want to get out and play.
My husband played for 2 years and kept asking me to learn so that I could spend more time with him. He finally went as far as picking up a set of clubs for me. I was shocked and very touched by his gesture, so I took lessons figuring that I would suck and he'd see that and get over it. I was actually pretty good and my competitive nature kicked in. We've been playing together now for 3 years and it's the best! I should've done it sooner.
ReplyDeleteI'm a Golf Professional and my wife is so interested in learning the game now. I'd love to be able to play with her, so think we're going to start this season.
ReplyDeleteMmmmmm - Jessica Biel playing golf - OH MY !!!
ReplyDeleteIn a way, I sort of agree with you Augustagg. If they are living together, the guy should make an attempt to help with the housework - but you don't get to discount mowing the lawn. ;-)
Here's my problem with it - what if Justin doesn't want to play with her ? Why can't women let us men do things together ? You want to trumpet the "girls' night out" and throw a fit if the guys want to come along - but if we want to do something together, we're mean and "smothering".
If she's not interested in doing something he likes to do - then so be it. Why can't she let him have his time ?
If she GETS interested and he wants to play with her - fine - but if he plays golf to spend time with his friends - leave it alone.
Then again - if I was dating Jessica Biel and she wanted to play golf with me ? OH YEAH BABY !!! :-D
By the way - I know how to do laundry, fold laundry, iron, and I do dishes...mostly because my cooking was investigated as a possible weapon of mass distruction. :-)
Actually Court I think you're right that some girls are just too clingy (some guys too, I suppose), but I think if you're partner is a really passionate golfer it IS a good idea to learn the game. Then once you've learned it you may not play with your partner at all...playing together should be a mutual decision... but you'll be able to relate to the joy of playing.
ReplyDeleteI'm a passionate golfer and my boyfriend of 4 years doesn't play at all. If he did, I'm thinking he might understand why I spend every weekend on the golf course.
The reason I even started playing was so the hubby & I would have something we enjoyed doing together (besides the obvious). Now that our children are grown, we have something that has brought us back together at a time when so many other couples seem to be separating.
ReplyDeleteOf course, he still often plays w/ the guys & I still play with the girls at least once a week. But we do enjoy (and prefer) playing together. Then there are times that the hubbys all play in front of us and we wives play together, which is too much fun!
Now, if I could just get him to stop trying to fix MY game & work on his own...
;-)
Growl - I would probably agree with you on most things - but golf not only takes a good chunk of time, it's something that just isn't easy to do. If you were a bike rider or bowler or painter and he wanted to try, it would be pretty easy for you to say "throw the ball that way", or "try not to fall off", or "put whatever color you think looks good in whatever pattern you think looks good", and go with it.
ReplyDeleteYou've been with your b/f for 4 years and you SOMEHOW survive with him letting you do your thing while he does his. Face it - men and women are different. We just don't feel like the world is coming to an end if the women don't want to do all the same things we do. :-)
(then again - this started with Jessica Biel - I'm throwing her over my shoulder and taking her to the golf course...or anything else she wanted to do together !!) :-D
I mentioned this to my wife and she reminded me that I am not Justin Timberlake ;-)
ReplyDeleteAlthough I would like to see my wife take some interest in the sport I am so involved in, I also value the space it gives us both and think it can be beneficial to our relationship at times.
On the other hand, many of the guys I play with at the club on the weekends go back out for an extra nine holes with their wives or girlfriends. They also have someone to play with on vacation. I definitely envy that!
Courted my wife on the course.
ReplyDeleteWifes/gilf friends who play golf and look good doing are a HOT!
See there ? Matt gave another perfect example of the male/female double standard. Can you imagine how many nights he would be on the couch if he reversed the statement and told his wife that she's no Jessica Biel ? :-D
ReplyDeleteDonn - YOU SAID IT, BROTHER !
Court: nights on the couch? It would probably be much easier to count in weeks or months!
ReplyDeleteGolf with your girl is so great. Laundry with your girl is not on the same level. Separate the necessary from the spiritual and you will understand.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to make sure your beginer golf girfriend does not take up golf seriously and mess up your weekends, give her a 2 iron, a bucket of balls, and a downhill lie and tell her you will check and see how she is doing in 30 minutes. Taht should take care of it.
ReplyDeleteThanks for all the great feed back. It's an interesting topic. Nick and I have had our BEST times together on the golf course...and (due to my occasional tantrums) a couple of our worst. :o\
ReplyDeleteI absolutely enjoy playing with my BF - and I'm a newbie, I don't even own my own clubs yet - but golf is such an INDIVIDUAL game that can be played with others and so, I think, it really is like you're doing your own thing in a sense. I love the competition factor and I love the advice my BF gives me with my swings and stance. I can see us playing for years to come.
ReplyDeleteHmmm... mixed feelings on this for sure. It would be nice if wifey got hooked on golf. It would be a great have the whole family involved. I'm happy doing the things I enjoy, and wifey's happy doing the things she enjoys. The point is, these don't have to be the same things.
ReplyDeleteOne day wifey told me I was going to the ballet on a Friday evening in December. So I told her it's great that we would do things that the other enjoys. Then I told her she was coming duck hunting with me on Sunday. She felt that getting up at 3 AM in December in Wisconsin to go kill ducks was not her idea of fun. She also decided I didn't have to go to the ballet if I didn't want to.